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"Dear readers, I am in a relationship, about to get married next year. I have been dating my man for over 8 years, he proposed last year when we went on holiday to Paris. We both own our business, and we very okay financially. My man loves me very much, and I know he will do anything for me. The only problem I am having is my pastor is not happy about the relationship. I am in the choir and a committed member of my church. My pastor saw a vision during choir practice, and he called me to his office, saying my future husband is not the one for me, and the marriage will no last. He said he sees him walking away from the marriage, and I should not think about it.
Now, I am very confused, I love him very much, and I know that he won't hurt me. Should i take a huge risk leaving the man of my dreams, or listen to the man of God. My heart tells me to stay, we all know no marriage is perfect. I have invested so much in our relationship, we both have actually, and breaking his heart is the last thing i want to do. I am 29, and my man his 31. We are both ready to tie the knot. I have prayed about it, and honestly, I am ready to take a risk, and i have read articles, and people's testimonies that sometimes its better to follow your heart, and pastors can be wrong at times.
I often find it terrible to hear about real Christians leaning on their pastor and their every word for guidance and not seeking the face of God for themselves or reading the word which often stands as our guide...
This is a tuffie...but what do u guys think? Should she listen to her pastor and not marry her man of over 8 yrs?>
The pastor is supposed to be our earthly shepherd being led by our Great Shepherd Jesus Christ.
ReplyDeleteHebrews 13:20 Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant
Since our earthly shepherds are only human, they can make mistakes. Whenever we get advice from our spiritual leaders we need to compare the advice to the word of God.
2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness
We are all held accountable for what we do no matter what someone tells us.
Romans 14:12 So then each of us will give an account of himself to God.
We have to remember that the Pastor is a member of the body of Christ. The many members of the body of Christ make up the church. All members are members are important. Not everyone can be the pastor. Remember the body of Christ is composed of non Church positions such as plumbers, mechanics, custodians and etc.
Ephesians 4:16 From whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.
1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
1 Corinthians 12:27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.
There is no where in the bible where it says that the other members of the body will be not as versed in the word like the pastor. Now, let’s focus on what was said by her account.
"My pastor saw a vision during choir practice, and he called me to his office, saying my future husband is not the one for me, and the marriages will no last. He said he sees him walking away from the marriage, and I should not think about it."
I don't see anything unbiblical in the account. However, the danger is that the vision can turn out false if it does not happen. Which could be a sign of false prophesy but I am by know means calling him a false prophet. I’m only going by what could happen. Remember we all can be manipulated by the enemy at times however God’s grace can always bring us back.
I would like to hear what the Pastor would say.
In the account she says “The only problem I am having is my pastor is not happy about the relationship.” The first question that comes to my mind is why? It seems as if there is some unknown history coming from this statement. There is not a lot of detail to go on.
Now from the information given it seems as if Linda loves being apart of the Church saying “I am in the choir and a committed member of my church.” It seems that she trust sthe pastor enough to even consider his advice. I believe she should be careful when trusting the heart when it comes to decisions. Remember, there are many things the heart wants that are not good for us.
Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?
Matthew 15:19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.
Linda says she and her man has been together for 8 years. Has the Pastor known you that long? Has he known about the relationship? If so, does he know about any problems you have had in the relationship? Is this relationship and or possible marriage going to bring glory to God? I understand that feelings are real. I know because I have them. However, you have been given pause and now you are thinking. In the end the choice is yours. Whatever choice you make God will be with you. However you need to be honest with yourself and God. Trust God to guide you.
Proverbs 3:5-7 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil
Very insightful, Devon! Thank u for that
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